I know I said I wasn't going to post on here but something has happened today and I really need some advice.
I just found out today that a co-worker/friend of mine is being watched because they are pretty sure he is stealing money from our company. He is a young man...only 20 yrs old. He's worked there for 4 yrs. We've only just in the past 6 months or so become outside of work friends.
He's a gay man and we have loads of fun together. Mostly talking about boy troubles.
I'm just absolutely furious that he's been stealing money for months now. He's always telling me that he's broke. I'm also furious because he's a smart kid but obviously not smart enough to realize he's going to get in serious trouble.
On one hand I want to warn him that they are aware of what he's doing and it's just a matter of when they will confront him but on the other hand I think he deserves to be caught and taught a very valuable lesson.
Yes, I do call him a friend but I know that he would really never be a life long friend or anything. Like I said he's only 20 and I'm sure we won't remain in contact forever. Plus, since finding out that he is a thief I really could not remain friends with him any longer.
I can't tell anyone else about this at work as the person who told me about this told me in complete confidence and she is also a friend of mine. She wasn't going to tell me and then she said she just couldn't keep it to herself. Also she knows that this young man and I are friends.
That's another thing. Everyone at work, including my boss, knows that he and I hang out outside of work so I'm just hoping they don't think I'm involved somehow.
I'm really thinking I should just stay out of it and not get involved at all. He's the one who screwed up and I really think he deserves to be punished. It's not like he has only done it once. Like I said it's been going on for months now and he's had to have taken over a thousand dollars or more.
This has been bothering me all day and I know I will have trouble sleeping tonight.
What would you guys do if you were me? Would you tell him or would you stay out of it?
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 Cabs |
Subject: Advice Posted: 22 Jan 2013 - 05:16 GMT |
 SRV'sBabe (Italian Princess) |
Subject: Re:Advice Posted: 22 Jan 2013 - 16:24 GMT I would let him know the whole story.. he's being watched and he needs to do the right thing and fess up. He's too young to become a thief because it will only get worse and he WILL get caught, whether he stays there or moves on.
It amazes me that people steal hundreds of thousands of dollars like you see on the news, and think they'll get away with it. With technology the way it is, it's impossible to NOT trace things.. unless you are in control of the money, and you can be crafty at hiding it. But eventually it catches up to people. Maybe not right away, but years down the road.... Ciao for now my bellas & remember to embrace the present, & enjoy life while you've got the chance.... ciaoooooooo! Srvsbabe  x |
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Subject: Re:Advice Posted: 22 Jan 2013 - 18:16 GMT Well what the heck, I had a complicated color-coded response to your post and it disappeared. Not doing it again, darn it so here we go with the minimalist version.
Couple of points: They are "pretty sure" he's doing this - assuming it's management and they have something to back up their concerns. HOWEVER the person who told you about it (whom you consider a friend) did so in strictest confidence and you accepted those terms - which technically means you know nothing. That's the stickiest part of your situation, in my opinion. Rest easy, you did nothing to precipitate this situation. Probably not much help, but my thoughts. |
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Subject: Re:Advice Posted: 22 Jan 2013 - 18:35 GMT Quote from 'Vespa, Druish Princess from the Land of Ciao' You know, after re-reading this post, I'm kinda going with Vespa here.... say nothing... you are innocent and this kid is a thief. And they have to be absolutely sure before anything is done with him.... so if you have security cameras around, they'll catch him red-handed. Let us know how this shakes out! Ciao for now my bellas & remember to embrace the present, & enjoy life while you've got the chance.... ciaoooooooo! Srvsbabe x |
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Subject: Re:Advice Posted: 22 Jan 2013 - 23:29 GMT Thanks for the input ladies. I've decided not to say anything to him because I'm not supposed to know anything about it anyway and if he's that stupid to think he can steal money from our company when we have 24 video surveillance on us then he deserves to be caught.
There has to be some deeper issues that he is having as to why he is stealing. I know for a fact that he nor his family are desperate for money so it's some other problem. I'll keep you posted as to what happens. |
